Married Couples? What is one question you feel you should ask your mate before marriage?

Getting married--2nd time, and want to do things a lot different than the first time.Married Couples? What is one question you feel you should ask your mate before marriage?
Here are the questions my wife posed to me ... very early on:





1. Are you willing to hold down a job?





2. Are you willing to love my son like he's your own?





3. Are you willing to step up and be the leader of our family?





4. Are you willing to work on your spiritual life, both for yourself and for us as a couple?Married Couples? What is one question you feel you should ask your mate before marriage?
Find out about the kids thing first.
Do you want to have kids?
just follow your gut feeling on this . If he is a man that will carry you on his hands for the rest of your lifes then go for it .
would it matter if i already have kids
I am planning on getting married for the first time this year. My husband-to-be, and I have been trying to prepare ourselves towards a happy, and committed married life.





Through research, I have found that being able to go to a pre-marriage counseling is important. According to your religion, if you have one, usually they have these courses available.





However, there is one site that has helped me a lot, and currently my future husband and I have been going through these questions.





I realize you just asked for one question, but these are 10 main deal breakers...I think its definitely worth a look.


We have been giving each other time to go through these questions...depending on which question, 24hrs, or even more depending on how focused we are.





I wouldn't recommend reviewing the questions and or comparing answers when either one of you is stressed, or tired.





Hope it helps...and Congratulations!
What are you views on domestic violence?





Have you ever cheated?





How important is family to you?
The question you should really ask is one for both yourself and your partner. Are you ready to make a life time commitment to this one person?
is this all an act and once the ring goes on the real you comes out? or are you always being yourself and if so, please fill out this resume and have it notarized so in case you do change i'll have this as my reason for dissolution.
What is the one thing you could never forgive me for?
Get a good pre-nup...
There are many questions my fiancee and I discussed and are discussing (June 22 is our big day). Some important questions are, ';do you want kids or how many?'; ';do we both work or does one stay home with the kids?'; ';buy or rent a home?'; any questions about finance, who pays which bills, who does what house work, who cooks and when, do you believe in spanking, do you have the same religious beliefs, do you like a clean house or can you live with a messy house, how important is your job, home school or public or private school for the kids, how do we make big purchases, do we keep separate checking/savings accounts or joint or both? There are so many questions to be asked and answered and good job for you that you recognized that.
What percentage of the time do you lie?
Do you like getting kids?
Make sure they really want to be married, and that this is the thing that they want. The last thing you want is to get into a marriage and your partener bails quick. :)
R u gonna be p/o if i cheat?
There are several key issues (not to mention questions) that should be discussed by ANY couple; whether it's the first marriage or the third.





Issues like: sex, children, money, careers, religion, politics, philosophy, personal interests, etc.





What you must do is ASK YOURSELF what are the most important issues for YOU. Then discuss them with your potential mate.
im going thru the same thing as you..this will be my 2nd too..ive been thinking about what went wrong with our first and we have talked about it..its a scary thought of getting married again..there will always be something you discover later down the road, but communication is the best thing..dont be afraid to say something, so far, i havent and he accepts my fears..sorry if this didnt help any with a certain answer you are looking for..
I always ask them if they like it up the ***.
see bank records


see credit card statements


see business accounts and statements


look at tax returns
How many love rods can you do at once?
I remarried about a year ago, and I bought a book that had LOTS of questions to ask before you got married. Truthfully the fact I felt compelled to buy the book and then proceeded to interrogate my husband with all the questions annoyed him a bit--he was a good sport at first though!





Seriously there is one question that is spot on:





Do you have any unfinished business?
mine was ';do you swallow ?';