Why do unsuccessful couples use their kids as excuses to keep the marriage going?

When they could just keep up and maintain there marriage which in turn would ensure that the children would be well cared for? Vice versa doesn't usually work people.Why do unsuccessful couples use their kids as excuses to keep the marriage going?
its called hiding behind your children , sadly i was one of these people you describe , but we both came to a decision we couldn't do this forever as it wasn't fair on them ,sometimes you fall out of love , and you pretend things will get back to how things were , and we use the children as an excuse , but in reality it never really works , its better to move on the children will still be loved no matter what , if that makes sense xWhy do unsuccessful couples use their kids as excuses to keep the marriage going?
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Give your wife a membership to the local gym for her next birthday or for Christmas, whichever comes first. Give it to her with a bland expression.
A lot of parents believe, this is the only way to offer their children stability. Personally i think that as a couple problems should be resolved to rekindle lost love, because unhappy parents breed unhappy children and will eventually teach them bad relationship habits. If all else fails leave the relationship but try and maintain peace for the sake of the children.
my husband and i are thru with loving each other, each of us loves the kids to bits and cannot allow the other to take them. so we stay married. my kids may hear us quarrel once in a while but we are mostly civil to each other, sleep in the same bed, even laugh a lot. only we dont go out together or share our deepest feelings. neither of us is in another relationship.





maybe its pretense but it works for us and my kids have stability and 2 parents they can count on. i will allow them to grow up then leave. thats my sacrifice as a mother.
You sound like a bitter child. If you had any life experiences, you'd know why. Adults feel a deep need to protect their children, no matter what the cost to themselves.
If you think divorces are expensive,Try paying child support for 2 or 3 kids.So i would say cheaper to stay together even if not happy.
Because they don't know this


And to them its probably the best thing to do
Well at least to compensate their own blunders in life or somehow use it as a front maybe to show to people that with kids they are a happy family nad that nothing is wrong with them and only hoping that the kids will get them closer again or maybe believing that the kids presence, somehow they do not get bored and get going...all living in denial....hard to chew such situation though!!!
I think many people do it because people tell them that it's the best thing to do. I can honestly say from personal experience that staying together for the kids screws them up pretty badly. My parents stayed together for years when they both wanted to split. Both parents later told me that my sisters %26amp; I were the reason they stayed together.





The result? I got parents that screamed at each other when they thought we were asleep or in the other room %26amp; when they weren't screaming at each other there were the really awkward silences. Oh, and don't forget the one or two times when open resentment towards my sisters %26amp; I would subtly come through. I can't see why anyone would want to deny their children the chance to experience that.
Because it is what they believe as the only way to keep the children safe and secure...